Digital discretion for couples: what the club does and what you do

Discretion is a job for two

In a private club, discretion is not a single button. It is a series of small habits, some looked after by the club, others by you. Most slips do not come from sophisticated technology but from ordinary things: a notification on the lock screen, a photo with a recognisable painting in the background, a password used elsewhere too.

The good news is that each of these risks has a simple fix. It is worth going through them together, on a quiet evening, phones in hand. Here is how the responsibilities are shared.

What the club does for you

Several protections are built directly into the platform:

• manual verification of every couple, with the consent of both partners, so you know who you share the space with;
• photos blurred until you grant access, couple by couple;
• Velvet Mask, the discretion mode of the Privé tier, for those who want an even more private profile;
• discreet mode, for moments when others might see your screen;
• the panic exit button, which takes you off the club's pages instantly;
• neutral emails sent from "LP Club", with nothing in the subject line that draws attention;
• event addresses revealed shortly before, and only to confirmed guests;
• a code of conduct with zero tolerance, which includes respecting other members' privacy.

All of this only truly works if the rest of your digital life is looked after too. This is where your part begins.

What you do

You do not need to become security experts. It is enough to set a few things up carefully once and review them from time to time, for instance at the start of each season or before a trip. Do it together: a couple's discretion is only as strong as the more careless of the two phones.

An email address just for the club

Create a new email address used only for the club. No full name in it, no date of birth, no link to work accounts or social media. Decide together who has access to it and on which devices it is open.

Ideally, do not add it to the email app you use every day, where notifications mix together and a glance over your shoulder can reveal too much. Keep what belongs to the club separate from the rest of your life.

Strong passwords and two-step sign-in

A good password is long, unique and not reused for other accounts. The simplest approach is a password manager, which generates and remembers them for you. Turn on two-step sign-in for the dedicated email and wherever else it is available. If someone learns the password, the second step remains a real barrier.

Do not save the club password in the browser of a device others use, such as the family laptop or an office computer. And if one of you changes phones, check together that the old device has been signed out and wiped.

Notifications and the lock screen

Look at what appears on your lock screen when a message arrives. On most phones you can hide notification content or switch notifications off completely for certain apps. It is one of the simplest settings and one of the most important.

Photos: beautiful, but anonymous

Photos say more than you think. An image can be elegant and suggestive without identifying you. Before uploading anything, look at it the way a stranger searching for you would.

What is best left out of the frame:

• your face, including a profile or a reflection in a mirror or window;
• visible tattoos, scars and birthmarks;
• one-of-a-kind jewellery, recognisable watches, engraved wedding rings;
• rooms at home: paintings, wallpaper, furniture, the view from the window;
• documents, envelopes, screens or any readable text in the background.

A neutral setting, beautiful light and a few details of an outfit are enough. Photos blurred until access is granted protect you from people you have not given permission to. What a photo shows once access is granted, however, remains your choice, so make it with the same care.

Metadata

Many photos contain information you cannot see: the date, the phone model and sometimes the exact coordinates of where they were taken. Turn off location saving in your camera settings or remove metadata before uploading. Many phones offer an option to remove location when sharing. Check every time, not just on the first upload.

Screenshot etiquette

The rule is short: do not take screenshots of other members' profiles, photos or conversations. Not to show a friend, not "so you don't forget". What you were shown was shown to you, in trust.

You can expect the same from others. If you learn that an image or a conversation has been shared outside the club, report it immediately. The code of conduct treats such situations with zero tolerance.

One important nuance: do not keep screenshots of other members in your phone gallery even between the two of you. Galleries sync to the cloud, appear in automatic memory slideshows and sometimes end up on screens you would never think of.

Devices and everyday habits

Discretion is also a matter of routine. A few simple gestures, repeated, do more than any complicated setting:

• use a strong lock code on your phone and tablet;
• sign out of devices you do not control;
• check from time to time which sessions are open and which apps can access your photos;
• use a private browser window on a shared device.

Discreet mode and the panic exit button are designed for unexpected moments. Get to know them before you need them, so the gesture comes naturally, without hesitation.

Discretion as a form of respect

Every couple in the club entrusts their image and privacy to the others. Your care for your own discretion is also a form of respect towards them. If you want to know exactly what we expect from every member, read the code of conduct. And if these principles feel like yours, your membership application can begin whenever you feel ready.